November 3, 2024

Let’s be real for a moment—work-life balance sounds great in theory, but in practice, it can feel more like chasing a mirage. Every time you think you’re almost there, something changes, and suddenly, you’re knee-deep in deadlines, leaving the “life” part of the equation feeling like an afterthought. If you’re like me, you’ve probably found yourself asking, “Can I really have it all?” Spoiler: Yes, but not in the way we often imagine. Here’s my journey with finding that balance and a few tips that might help you on your own.

In my journey to achieve work-life balance, I discovered that it isn’t about evenly dividing time but rather about knowing your priorities and allowing them to guide your choices. Establishing boundaries, like saying “no” when necessary and limiting work hours, became essential. Accepting that balance is a moving target helped me adapt as my responsibilities and energy levels shifted. This approach involves self-compassion, small adjustments, and the flexibility to focus on different areas of life as needed, leading to a more fulfilling and sustainable sense of balance.

Tips for Finding Your Own Balance

Here are a few tips that helped me move from surviving to thriving in my pursuit of work-life balance:

1. Schedule “Non-Negotiable” Time
This is your sacred time—whether it’s for exercise, family, or simply relaxing with a good book. Block it off on your calendar, just like any important meeting. This helps to ensure that you’re dedicating time to things that recharge you and add joy to your life.

2. Embrace the Power of Small Breaks
I used to think I needed a full day off to feel recharged, but I’ve discovered that small breaks can work wonders. Even a 10-minute walk, a coffee break with a colleague, or five minutes of deep breathing can help reset my focus. Incorporating these short breaks into my day has made a big difference in my overall productivity and mood.

3. Set Clear Work Hours (and Stick to Them)
While this isn’t always possible, especially in high-demand jobs, setting boundaries around work hours can be transformative. If you work from home, this can be particularly challenging, but setting a start and end time for your day creates a psychological boundary between work and personal life.

4. Communicate with Those Around You
I found that one of the biggest barriers to balance was miscommunication. Whether it’s with coworkers, family, or friends, being open about your needs and boundaries helps avoid misunderstandings. Letting people know when you’re available—and when you’re not—can be liberating and helps to manage expectations on both sides.

5. Let Go of Perfectionism
This might be the hardest lesson to learn, but it’s crucial. I had to let go of the idea that I could be 100% at everything all the time. Some days, I’m a great employee; other days, I’m a better friend, partner, or parent. I’ve come to accept that I don’t have to be perfect in every role. Instead, I focus on putting effort, which is more than enough and finding contentment in the process as well as the outcome

Balance as a Journey, Not a Destination

Work-life balance is not about achieving a flawless schedule but rather embracing flexibility and self-compassion as your needs change over time. So here’s my takeaway: You don’t have to be perfect to have balance. Just keep showing up for yourself, listen to what you need, and don’t be afraid to make small adjustments. Balance is not a static goal; it’s a continuous journey, and every step counts.

Nahida Yeasmin
Psychologist, wEvolve